The seven sacraments · Question 7.4

“Is someone who divorced and started a new family finished as far as the Church is concerned?”

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The Church's answer: No one is discarded by the Church, and everyone remains invited to the Mass, the word, prayer, the community and acts of love. But the validity of the first marriage and the state of the present union really do affect the Eucharist and a life of reconciliation, so it has to be looked at concretely and in confidence, never settled by rumor or a one-line rule. Where it is possible, work out with a responsible pastor a nullity process, a resolution of the relationship, or a realistic way of living within the faith.

If they press further: “May Communion be refused in front of everyone, with the reason made public?” — No one's marital situation may be turned into a public humiliation. A judgment about the sacraments has to protect the person's dignity and privacy and the safety of the children and the family, without distorting the Church's teaching.

In one sentence: “Divorce or a new union doesn't make a person disappear from the Church — in truth and mercy we have to find the path of reconciliation and participation that fits each situation.”